A Letter to.......

“I am so glad I got to sit down and write this letter to you”

Guess what? Last week I went to your sister’s house and she was very happy to see me, I wish you were there too. I do not understand why you have to leave me now?

You never told me anything about the stay and food in fact did not hear from you since the day you left. I am worried but I am sure there must be a reason for the uninformed muteness.

Anyways…. Sweetheart the lilies have blossomed and looks beautiful, just like the way you wanted.

Jason our little one is asking about you every single day and above all I miss you like crazy.

“The days when I used to see your sleepy eyes wake up from the bed and hovering around the room, I miss all of it”

“The day when you went over to your sister’s house for me not coming home on time for our wedding anniversary, then you made me looking out for you everywhere”

I miss that day.  Remember how I pampered you the next day?

“Remember the day when I brought you thousand roses and you yelled on top of your voice for spending so much money because we had to pay our bills and then you gave me thousand kisses”

I miss every single kiss.

Also when Jason was born you shed tears of Joy which gave you the gift of motherhood that was a new chapter in our life.

I have been missing you every single day every single moment.

I will See you very Soon in heaven, I am sure they are treating you well.

I will treasure this letter forever. Its been hard 

The 575 KTM stretch

It was 6:30 Am on 11-03-2012 and Sathya knocked at my door. 7 Am we were having breakfast. 7:30 Am we were off to a 150 Km Journey.  A Journey to Experience MR.Sathya’s KTM.  It was a breezy Sunday morning and the weather was good. Took couple of water bottles, sunglass, T shirts and we were off.

The morning weather in Hyderabad was perfect and the Journey was getting better and better as we hit the highway there were less people on the Road and less chirping sounds of the birds up in the air.

There are few things which cannot be captured by camera neither by the video lens it can only be captured by the innermost emotions of your mind. I can imagine what Mr.KTM (read Sathya) would have felt.

Made our first pit stop in some *$*&T&$R&$ Place for a cup of tea. Then we hit the Road again constantly hitting 80- 85 Km/h as the bike should not go beyond the limit as the first service has to be done. Talking about the Bike the design is a perfect mix of comfort and style. Compared to other bikes the pillion ride is better on this one.
After about 45 minutes of so I felt a little uncomfortable sitting behind as it’s not a Touring bike but an on and off road bike. The weather was good for a longer period of time than expected. I could see people turning their heads to look at ME or THE KTM I am not sure though J both were looking hot.

Then the destination Dindi came and I have to say it was beautiful out of nowhere and the Dindi reservoir which I came to know about it later was nice. Then Mr.KTm said why don’t we go to srisailam another 100 Kms and we decided Oh Yes we will. We clicked few pictures which will become legendary later and we hit the roads again whistling past fellow riders and auto rickshaws.

So MR.KTM was riding the bike and I was just a mere pillion rider MR.KTM was super excited and he went past wider and thinner roads reaching a point finally MR.KTM decided it was the wrong road and we took a U turn and came back 40 kms, Yeah That is how far we went. So it was 80 + Kms wasted and then the sun took a hit on us. It was getting hotter and was difficult for both of us. He was feeling a bit tough to sit and I was having a very hard time to sit as a pillion rider.

After a few more pit stops to have water we hit the foot hills of srisailam and then we went up the hills only to realize the petrol bunk was closed owing to the fact there is No stock and in front of  the petrol station a guy was selling Petrol in a huge can what an irony Sirjiiii!!!!!
We rode and rode then we had lunch which was out of the world. Had a mouth watering authentic Andhra chicken curry and meals with its own spice and then we reached srisailam. Added to the misery the only petrol station was out of petrol. We hoped we will get the same illegal petrol while going back and Yes we got it A liter 90 Rupees

As soon as we reached we headed back because all we need was a ride. No wrong routes and thinner roads this time. One stretch we reached our favorite spot “The Truffles” Had dinner With Mr.KTM opting for Chargrilled chicken and I had chicken stroganoff. Ride back home was clean but was dead tired.

One thing I have to say my arse has not burnt like that in my entire life. 575 Kms was a tough one. Nevertheless it was a wonderful ride while exploring some amazing places.

Friends and stupid Friends

I finally decided there are two kinds of friends one is a Friend and the other one is a stupid friend. I would like to talk about the later today. 

When you think about friends you will feel nostalgic. It reminds you of school days. It reminds you of college days. It reminds you of the times where you were stupid enough to do crazy things. On the other hand there will be friends who are materialistic. 

When I say materialistic which means they stick you because they might get attention, they stick to you no matter what the situation is provided you are Rich, they stick to you because you have a car, they stick to you so they can party hard.

Remember your friend coming to you and saying lets go away for this weekend and at the same time when a situation comes and you want someone to share your innermost feelings the same friend is nowhere to be seen just because he does not want to listen to your sob story.

Remember that friend when you and he were caught together back in college and you were the one who made it to the principal’s office he was nowhere to be seen to given justification to your act just because he will also be caught and suspended.

Remember those days when you desperately needed money the same friend gave you some lame excuses so that he does not have to give you money.

Remember those times when you want your friend to come along with you just because you wanted him to be with you so you will feel secure and he was nowhere to be seen.

I am talking about those friends here. They do not even earn a place in your life. Those days when you heard everything from them, you heard their sad stories, you heard their breakups and when you wanted them they just do not want to be around. Why???

I do not know… They are the people who not even stand a chance to be your friend. They do not deserve to be your friend. I think it is time for you guys to throw away from your life. I know friendship does not expect anything which does not mean they can use you like public toilet whey they are in dire need to get out the garbage. It does not mean they can take them whenever they want and do not want to give their shoulder.

I respect my friends. In fact to be honest the way I am today it is because of my friend’s maybe that is why people take advantage of me I have been used by many I have not cared about it because I never expected anything from them but then comes a situation where you do not have any place to go and you tell it to your friend then the people who you call FRIENDS will help you. The people whom you call STUPID FRIENDS will not help you. You have not experienced it well give it a shot if I am wrong come shoot me in my eyes.

I still remember the day when I was short of paying my fees to enter my Engineering my friend took the Gold ring from his cousin and gave it to me No questions asked the same friend remains a FRIEND till date. I owe him big time even today.  

Choose your friends wisely. You will have millions of friends to have fun, to party, to smoke, to drink, to share things but when it comes a point where you are in a situation where you cannot tell anything to anybody, where you find a point where you do not have a place to go and ask for help that is when you will find the true colour of a Friend it might sound stereotyped but it’s a fact.

I am happy and content this day and I can proudly say I have few Good friends of mine and the others are merely stupid friends.

Having said that friends whom i care about means a lot to me and even now STUPID FRIENDS use me.....

A Letter to Yuvi

I have always loved cricket and it became an addiction after I started to watch Mark Waugh in his yellow jersey.

 

Years passed by and I became a die-hard fan of Indian cricket team and was waiting for the day when India will lift the World Cup. Then came the day and India with all pride and hard work lifted the world cup I was a proud Indian fan. The Hero was Yuvraj Singh.

The way he played showed the temperament and courage. The way he fielded showed how badly he wanted the cup. The way he bowled showed he was willing to even try the areas where he was not an expertise. The moment when he cried showed the little boy inside him who wanted to lift the world cup. Yuvi became the Hero in front of the little master.

Soon he was diagnosed with malignant tumour which was in the initial stages thanks to the early diagnostics. Lance Armstrong overcame the same kind of cancer which was in the critical stage and went on to become 7 time Tour De france champion and when he wrote to Yuvi to get well that is when I realised how important Yuvi is to us. 

Yuvraj has always been a fighter and was regarded for the same. From 2009 he had a very bad run but did not give up he came back to the Indian cricket team and won the world cup. He had numerous bad reputations for his flings and partying hard. I do not care about it. He gave his heart and soul when India asked him. He delivered the Gold mine when India needed the most.

When people said Yuvi has lost his touch, lost his passion, his career has gone for a toss he never gave up. He came back strongly with a determined heart to fight back which he did and emerged as a winner.  I know for a fact he is going to fight this tumour and he is going to get back to the nets with the vigour and attitude which no one can ever dare to see.

Yuvi!! We need you back. It gave inspiration to many of us and to the nation. We still remember your century against Australia at Sydney. Times might change there are few things which can never be changed.

Yuvi this is for you…. There are millions of players who have achieved feats which no one has achieved but it does not matter to me. There are millions of celebrities who have come back from downhill it does not matter to me. There are millions of people who have battled trials and tribulations in their life it does not matter to me. Yuvi all I am asking is we need you out in the field. I know you are going to make it in few months and you are going to come with aggressiveness and dedications but this time I, We as a nation want you to be a role model rather than being a Hero. 

You have already inspired us in many ways and I appreciate it deep within my heart, this is not a mere article or a blog or to get some attention. This is Out of pure passion for cricket which I carry within me.

Yuvi come back with a bang, Come back and show the world there is more cricket in you, Come back and add strength to our team, Come back and slam boundaries, Come back and hit the ball out of the park.

We all Love you.

Dream as a Kid

Every one of us as a kid had our Dreams. Dreams of flying around the world, Dreams of becoming a cricketer, Dreams of becoming a king, Dreams of becoming a celebrity, Dreams of becoming a Legend

What happened to our Dreams???

 

As I was thinking on what to write for my blog I though to myself as a kid I had dreams of so many things and aspiring of becoming in to someone who is unbeatable. I have crossed Quarter of a century and the dreams which I had as a kid remains as a dream locked up in my mind. 

I do not know the reason why! Is it because as we enter in to our teens we become the nonsensical us doing crazy things. I think from being a kid becoming a teenager does a lot of transformation in us and mostly we Indians tend to satisfy our parents. Our parents once we complete our High school they have two things on their minds. Engineer, Doctor and there will be add-on’s as well IAS, IFS. These days IIT and IIM have become an inevitable talk in every ones household. 

I think as a parent it’s important for them to think their kids to be the greatest and there is nothing wrong with it but what hits me the most is because of that many kids talents remains hidden forever.

I remember my cousin who was great in Hockey and Table tennis was hidden forever, he would have become a notable player in the sports segment but it was never fruitful. I have friends who wanted to become a sportsman, another one who wanted to become a musician, one of my friend wanted to be a businessman, another friend of mine wanted to start a hotel and the list goes on and on. 

Many of us who do our jobs these days right at this moment do not ever care about it. All we need was money and that is why we are working but deep inside our heart there is something which always knocks us and says what happened to our dream?? Being a kid years back we never had any worries, our jobs is to study and study and study and then we need to get in to a corporate job and here we are doing the same exact thing. Every one of us has that unique talent of being someone huge, larger than life image but it gets faded away as years pass by.

Still I do not have an answer!!! Do we need to blame our parents because they care for us and they want us to have a beautiful life?? Do we blame ourselves for not taking that extra heap of climbing the ladder?? Do we need to blame the society for not looking at us like an alien when we tend to do something out of normalcy???

As I have mentioned I do not have an answer. You guys will know many friends of yours who has tons of talents and it remains with them. Dream as a kid should not be a dream it has to become a reality at least we should have tried to make it a reality. If I would have tried of becoming a sportsman I do not have to blame myself I will not feel guilty of not trying. 

Becoming an Engineer, Becoming a corporate big shot is good but there is much more in life. Do not make a kids dream as a dream. Why do we tell kids to dream?? Why do we show pictures of celebrities and sportsman and feed them food. I think there is a bit of selfishness involved in there. Selfish of making my kid the big shot, selfish of making my kid an Engineer, IAS, IFS, Corporate Executives

Let the Kids dream and let them turn it in to reality do not shy them away from taking the ultimate risk of becoming a superstar, they may regret it and die of guilt and fear.

Let’s make this world a beautiful place

Ego

There were times in our life where we had a rift with our friend, sister, Brother, parents, neighbours, team mates, class mates, Gym mates, Jog mates and much more.

All this for a simple reason Ego

Ego I checked online what it means, it gave me several synonyms the one which I liked was “The I or self of any person” When we think of something or when we do something we always think about I, not that everyone do the same but yes most of us just think about I. 

A simple “I do it my way” brings down the friendship in a split second. A simple “I am this way” brings down relationship in a jiffy. A simple “I can’t do it” brings bitterness between two. A simple “Why Should I”, “Why Do I have to”, “Why does it have to be this way” Creeps in and shuts the most beautiful relationship between brothers, Sisters, Wife, Husband, GF, BG, Friends, Neighbours, Office colleagues and you can count them on………

Why does this happen??

I was trying to find an answer but does it really matter to find out the reason why people have Ego. It does upsurge under certain circumstances. Sometimes it comes in because too many people are watching you when you have an argument with the other person, Ego Pops in your head and you tell something which makes you a Hero in an instant but you will fail to win the person with whom you are arguing. You may be a winner at that moment but what is the point??? You can win so many battles with your tongue but it’s hard to win a soul if your Ego tells things which are not resounding for the other person and you may lose his friendship or whatever relationship you have with him/her.

Family is one beautiful gift which anyone can have. It creates your own world with your children wonderful wife/husband but sustaining it building a castle out of it is a challenge which many fail to achieve. Why?? many a times it’s the “Ego”. You tell something and your partner says the other way round over a silly thing take for example buying a Refrigerator.  A Squabble disguises in the way of EGO, you keep arguing and finally you end up buying nothing. Why because “The I or self of any person” snaps  in and takes control, A simple 5 minutes on why do we need the Refrigerator and what is our purpose brings in harmony and also takes your relationship to the next Level.

In many relationships I have seen around me, a simple argument is where everything stars and it boils down and bursts in to two people going in two different ways. If you take a moment and look back all it is because of Ego, it’s all because of the “I” involved in it, we do not really think about “US”. WE do compromise most of the time but we fail to capitalise at the most important juncture in our relationship and leads to destruction.

Whoever is reading this remember one thing, When you say “I” and start arguing with the other person you are winning the battle but you are losing the Loved one. Within few minutes it will grow in to an enormous fight and it continues for days and you end up being alone looking for answers on why it happened?? Well you know the reason, you could have sat and made her/him understand and could have ditched your EGO instead of Ditching the relationship, when I say relationship it does not mean GF/BG, husband/wife, it also includes a relationship with your friend, with your mom/dad, with your shop keeper, with your boss, with a guy you meet on the roads, at the stadium, in a match it does not matter. This might be cliché but I don’t mind it “if there is no EGO our house and our town will be a paradise”   

Ego doesn’t have to be arguments it also holds back expressing your feelings, your emotions. Someone with whom you are in Love with, Ego sneaks in and holds you in expressing it to her/him. I have seen many friends who have not expressed their inner self to the one just because he/she does not want to take that step because he/she might lose the self-esteem and one more time “THE I” kicks in. Why do we have to hold back conveying our emotions just because of our EGO.  I had my share of crushes but I never expressed it to the other person just because I take pride in myself by not approaching them and telling them how I feel because “The I in me” says you might lose your dignity, I can’t do that anymore and I have an unequivocal feeling that the other person has the right to know how I feel we need to shed our skin and be the Real “US”

Ego kills everything. Kills your inner self, kills your mind, kills your smartness, kills your name tag and kills the moral instincts which might get buried till you hit the graveyard.

What am I trying to say?? Kill the Ego. What the heck mann, c’mon it is not going to give you the best out of you. It is not going to give you eternal happiness. It breaks relationships; it is not a pillar to build a relationship. When your mom/dad says you do it this way, instead of saying I will do it My  way, make them understand why you are doing it, maybe you are wrong, may be they are wrong but doing it “My way” is not the Way. Taking pride of your own Ego is like taking a pile of cow dung and splashing it on your face instead dry it and burn it you might be using it to warm yourself in the winter or for some itty bitty things.

Even for the silliest of things throw your EGO away deep inside the ocean. Let’s kick in begin a wonderful February without even the slightest EGO storming in when we talk to someone, when we do something, at our work place. Tell your wives how much you Love them rather than being a Man and holding back in expressing your thoughts, Tell your husband’s how you would want to snuggle and hear his childhood stories one more time, Nobody is getting old the world around us is getting older and dangerous,  stop arguing and make people understand. You aint gonna get a medal of honor.

Ego in my version is a self-Destructive, implausible Weak Object which rescinds our relationship. A Word which does not mend but bends and breaks.

Cheers 

Excuses to your manager/ Boss

Situation 1: Your friend is in town and you have to stay back and spent time with him. 

What is the Problem: No leaves because you went to Goa just for the heck of it

 Solution:

 Call your Boss. This is how the conversation should be

“Boss I don’t think I can make it today”

“What happened?”

“I am sick boss. Dunno what happened all of a sudden I could not do anything” Do not say I have high temperature; do not say you have stomach problem and all stupid silly sicknesses as excuses, Make sure you tell him you are not able to do anything.  At this point you have to exhale and breathe heavily and should choke yourself. Then take 30 seconds of your time and then talk to him again. Boss give me sometime I will try to come, something is troubling me inside it happened to me a very long time ago when I was in college and again clog yourself then cut the call immediately.

Call your boss after 5 minutes. Sorry Boss could not speak properly (All these had to be done in a low and shaky voice) practice with your friend over the phone.

Now tell him, Boss I am feeling noxious and breathe heavily. I will take rest and will come tomorrow if this does not work either you r a bad actor on the phone or your boss is a sadist.

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Situation: Friends party and two hot chicks are coming

What is the problem: You yelled at your boss for no apparent reason and he is mad at you

Solution 1:

Invite him to the party and show the pictures of the hot chicks. 

Caution : May not work and might back fire, even it may fire you from the job.

Solution no 2:

Message him the same exact thing. (Boss I am very sorry I know I should not yelled at you like that the other day, I do not know how I will make it to you but I promise I will never ever be a Jackass in front of you. Please forgive me for the last time because there will not be next time. I mean it from the heart). You will get a reply most probably it is alright, please do not repeat it.

Then after 2 hours message him saying your friend is coming from Kuwait for a surprise visit and you have to go and pick him up from the Airport and he got a call from your common friend just now and you do not know why he is coming.

Once your shift starts call your boss and tell him your friend had a breakup and he is talking all nonsense and he might do something stupid and you have to be with him.

Impact: Less, Definitely a winner.

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Situation 3: You went for the IPL match 

What is the problem: your boss sees you on TV but you told your boss your Mom is sick and you had to take her to the hospital.

Solution 1:

 Your friends from work might message you saying what had happened. Put up hospital bandage around your hand and come to office and tell your boss you were lying to him, your Asshole friends took you for the IPL match and there was a fist fight. The impact was the bandage and you felt sorry for your behavior and the punishment is this.

Solution 2: 

Buy the most expensive ticket in IPL and give it to your boss for the next match stating he went for the match just to get this ticket as he knew few people in the stadium. 

Impact: This will reflect on your Evaluation score (Of course Bad score)

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Situation 4: ONLY FOR GIRLS Whose Manager is a guy (Date with the most handsome guy in the neighborhood)

What is the problem: Boss is the most Eligible bachelor and you canceled him on a date stating same team members should not Date according to company policy.

Solution1: 

Since you know you are going for a date, tell your boss your friend of 15 years is finally in town and you had to spend time with her for the last time as she may never come back.

Solution 2:

Tell your boss, you were such an idiot the other day for cancelling the date and ask him for a date again. The very next day tell him you had to take a day off to meet X, Y, Z (Don’t cancel him on the date which you promised)

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Situation 5: Your favorite Band is in town. 

Advantage: Your boss likes the band

Problem: Leave is over because your GF/BF forced to spent time with her/him and you took Leave.

Solution: 

Make sure you get two tickets, no matter what the situation is ensure there are two tickets, hook or crook, smart work or snatching the ticket does not matter “TWO TICKETS” Surprise your boss by showing the tickets and you both can bunk work and bang your head to the riff or sit down and enjoy the music. 

To be Continued..........