A Letter to Yuvi

I have always loved cricket and it became an addiction after I started to watch Mark Waugh in his yellow jersey.

 

Years passed by and I became a die-hard fan of Indian cricket team and was waiting for the day when India will lift the World Cup. Then came the day and India with all pride and hard work lifted the world cup I was a proud Indian fan. The Hero was Yuvraj Singh.

The way he played showed the temperament and courage. The way he fielded showed how badly he wanted the cup. The way he bowled showed he was willing to even try the areas where he was not an expertise. The moment when he cried showed the little boy inside him who wanted to lift the world cup. Yuvi became the Hero in front of the little master.

Soon he was diagnosed with malignant tumour which was in the initial stages thanks to the early diagnostics. Lance Armstrong overcame the same kind of cancer which was in the critical stage and went on to become 7 time Tour De france champion and when he wrote to Yuvi to get well that is when I realised how important Yuvi is to us. 

Yuvraj has always been a fighter and was regarded for the same. From 2009 he had a very bad run but did not give up he came back to the Indian cricket team and won the world cup. He had numerous bad reputations for his flings and partying hard. I do not care about it. He gave his heart and soul when India asked him. He delivered the Gold mine when India needed the most.

When people said Yuvi has lost his touch, lost his passion, his career has gone for a toss he never gave up. He came back strongly with a determined heart to fight back which he did and emerged as a winner.  I know for a fact he is going to fight this tumour and he is going to get back to the nets with the vigour and attitude which no one can ever dare to see.

Yuvi!! We need you back. It gave inspiration to many of us and to the nation. We still remember your century against Australia at Sydney. Times might change there are few things which can never be changed.

Yuvi this is for you…. There are millions of players who have achieved feats which no one has achieved but it does not matter to me. There are millions of celebrities who have come back from downhill it does not matter to me. There are millions of people who have battled trials and tribulations in their life it does not matter to me. Yuvi all I am asking is we need you out in the field. I know you are going to make it in few months and you are going to come with aggressiveness and dedications but this time I, We as a nation want you to be a role model rather than being a Hero. 

You have already inspired us in many ways and I appreciate it deep within my heart, this is not a mere article or a blog or to get some attention. This is Out of pure passion for cricket which I carry within me.

Yuvi come back with a bang, Come back and show the world there is more cricket in you, Come back and add strength to our team, Come back and slam boundaries, Come back and hit the ball out of the park.

We all Love you.

Dream as a Kid

Every one of us as a kid had our Dreams. Dreams of flying around the world, Dreams of becoming a cricketer, Dreams of becoming a king, Dreams of becoming a celebrity, Dreams of becoming a Legend

What happened to our Dreams???

 

As I was thinking on what to write for my blog I though to myself as a kid I had dreams of so many things and aspiring of becoming in to someone who is unbeatable. I have crossed Quarter of a century and the dreams which I had as a kid remains as a dream locked up in my mind. 

I do not know the reason why! Is it because as we enter in to our teens we become the nonsensical us doing crazy things. I think from being a kid becoming a teenager does a lot of transformation in us and mostly we Indians tend to satisfy our parents. Our parents once we complete our High school they have two things on their minds. Engineer, Doctor and there will be add-on’s as well IAS, IFS. These days IIT and IIM have become an inevitable talk in every ones household. 

I think as a parent it’s important for them to think their kids to be the greatest and there is nothing wrong with it but what hits me the most is because of that many kids talents remains hidden forever.

I remember my cousin who was great in Hockey and Table tennis was hidden forever, he would have become a notable player in the sports segment but it was never fruitful. I have friends who wanted to become a sportsman, another one who wanted to become a musician, one of my friend wanted to be a businessman, another friend of mine wanted to start a hotel and the list goes on and on. 

Many of us who do our jobs these days right at this moment do not ever care about it. All we need was money and that is why we are working but deep inside our heart there is something which always knocks us and says what happened to our dream?? Being a kid years back we never had any worries, our jobs is to study and study and study and then we need to get in to a corporate job and here we are doing the same exact thing. Every one of us has that unique talent of being someone huge, larger than life image but it gets faded away as years pass by.

Still I do not have an answer!!! Do we need to blame our parents because they care for us and they want us to have a beautiful life?? Do we blame ourselves for not taking that extra heap of climbing the ladder?? Do we need to blame the society for not looking at us like an alien when we tend to do something out of normalcy???

As I have mentioned I do not have an answer. You guys will know many friends of yours who has tons of talents and it remains with them. Dream as a kid should not be a dream it has to become a reality at least we should have tried to make it a reality. If I would have tried of becoming a sportsman I do not have to blame myself I will not feel guilty of not trying. 

Becoming an Engineer, Becoming a corporate big shot is good but there is much more in life. Do not make a kids dream as a dream. Why do we tell kids to dream?? Why do we show pictures of celebrities and sportsman and feed them food. I think there is a bit of selfishness involved in there. Selfish of making my kid the big shot, selfish of making my kid an Engineer, IAS, IFS, Corporate Executives

Let the Kids dream and let them turn it in to reality do not shy them away from taking the ultimate risk of becoming a superstar, they may regret it and die of guilt and fear.

Let’s make this world a beautiful place

Ego

There were times in our life where we had a rift with our friend, sister, Brother, parents, neighbours, team mates, class mates, Gym mates, Jog mates and much more.

All this for a simple reason Ego

Ego I checked online what it means, it gave me several synonyms the one which I liked was “The I or self of any person” When we think of something or when we do something we always think about I, not that everyone do the same but yes most of us just think about I. 

A simple “I do it my way” brings down the friendship in a split second. A simple “I am this way” brings down relationship in a jiffy. A simple “I can’t do it” brings bitterness between two. A simple “Why Should I”, “Why Do I have to”, “Why does it have to be this way” Creeps in and shuts the most beautiful relationship between brothers, Sisters, Wife, Husband, GF, BG, Friends, Neighbours, Office colleagues and you can count them on………

Why does this happen??

I was trying to find an answer but does it really matter to find out the reason why people have Ego. It does upsurge under certain circumstances. Sometimes it comes in because too many people are watching you when you have an argument with the other person, Ego Pops in your head and you tell something which makes you a Hero in an instant but you will fail to win the person with whom you are arguing. You may be a winner at that moment but what is the point??? You can win so many battles with your tongue but it’s hard to win a soul if your Ego tells things which are not resounding for the other person and you may lose his friendship or whatever relationship you have with him/her.

Family is one beautiful gift which anyone can have. It creates your own world with your children wonderful wife/husband but sustaining it building a castle out of it is a challenge which many fail to achieve. Why?? many a times it’s the “Ego”. You tell something and your partner says the other way round over a silly thing take for example buying a Refrigerator.  A Squabble disguises in the way of EGO, you keep arguing and finally you end up buying nothing. Why because “The I or self of any person” snaps  in and takes control, A simple 5 minutes on why do we need the Refrigerator and what is our purpose brings in harmony and also takes your relationship to the next Level.

In many relationships I have seen around me, a simple argument is where everything stars and it boils down and bursts in to two people going in two different ways. If you take a moment and look back all it is because of Ego, it’s all because of the “I” involved in it, we do not really think about “US”. WE do compromise most of the time but we fail to capitalise at the most important juncture in our relationship and leads to destruction.

Whoever is reading this remember one thing, When you say “I” and start arguing with the other person you are winning the battle but you are losing the Loved one. Within few minutes it will grow in to an enormous fight and it continues for days and you end up being alone looking for answers on why it happened?? Well you know the reason, you could have sat and made her/him understand and could have ditched your EGO instead of Ditching the relationship, when I say relationship it does not mean GF/BG, husband/wife, it also includes a relationship with your friend, with your mom/dad, with your shop keeper, with your boss, with a guy you meet on the roads, at the stadium, in a match it does not matter. This might be cliché but I don’t mind it “if there is no EGO our house and our town will be a paradise”   

Ego doesn’t have to be arguments it also holds back expressing your feelings, your emotions. Someone with whom you are in Love with, Ego sneaks in and holds you in expressing it to her/him. I have seen many friends who have not expressed their inner self to the one just because he/she does not want to take that step because he/she might lose the self-esteem and one more time “THE I” kicks in. Why do we have to hold back conveying our emotions just because of our EGO.  I had my share of crushes but I never expressed it to the other person just because I take pride in myself by not approaching them and telling them how I feel because “The I in me” says you might lose your dignity, I can’t do that anymore and I have an unequivocal feeling that the other person has the right to know how I feel we need to shed our skin and be the Real “US”

Ego kills everything. Kills your inner self, kills your mind, kills your smartness, kills your name tag and kills the moral instincts which might get buried till you hit the graveyard.

What am I trying to say?? Kill the Ego. What the heck mann, c’mon it is not going to give you the best out of you. It is not going to give you eternal happiness. It breaks relationships; it is not a pillar to build a relationship. When your mom/dad says you do it this way, instead of saying I will do it My  way, make them understand why you are doing it, maybe you are wrong, may be they are wrong but doing it “My way” is not the Way. Taking pride of your own Ego is like taking a pile of cow dung and splashing it on your face instead dry it and burn it you might be using it to warm yourself in the winter or for some itty bitty things.

Even for the silliest of things throw your EGO away deep inside the ocean. Let’s kick in begin a wonderful February without even the slightest EGO storming in when we talk to someone, when we do something, at our work place. Tell your wives how much you Love them rather than being a Man and holding back in expressing your thoughts, Tell your husband’s how you would want to snuggle and hear his childhood stories one more time, Nobody is getting old the world around us is getting older and dangerous,  stop arguing and make people understand. You aint gonna get a medal of honor.

Ego in my version is a self-Destructive, implausible Weak Object which rescinds our relationship. A Word which does not mend but bends and breaks.

Cheers